Unleashing the Calm Within: Navigating the Terrain of Anger Management

No matter how hard we try, things don’t always go our way. But anger can never be a solution to your problems. Here’s how you can tame that particular wild beast.

Understanding the Fiery Emotion

Anger is no ordinary emotion. It’s a wild torrent of passion that erupts when your sense of right and wrong is violated. Failed plans are a normal occurrence in one’s life. But when this failure is accompanied by a giant explosion of temper from your side, while people run for cover, then you have a real problem. Sadly, anger issues can be terribly destructive for your social and professional life, simply because no one wants to be related to a live bomb waiting to explode.

Empowering Yourself with Control

Fortunately, the choice to either turn this anger into something positive or simply drown your rational faculties in order to fight is in your hands. The following are the steps one can take to confront these overwhelming emotions in a healthy manner and treat this problem.

1. Control

People under the throes of anger, most often than not, fail to recognize its control over mind and body and simply give in to the baser instinct of reacting. Hence it becomes extremely important to learn the signs of change in your body language in such a situation and immediately take measures to control your actions.

As soon as you see subtle changes in your body like flushed skin and clenched teeth, acknowledge the fact that you are angry and stop any further actions. Say things like “It’s alright,” “I’m okay” to yourself and force your body to relax. Taking a few deep breaths will help loosen the strained muscles and nerves and give you a moment to think rationally.

2. Share

Acting out in anger is bad, but stewing in it constantly is even worse. Don’t just internalize your frustrations to stop the conflict. If something is bothering you, share it with the other person. Sometimes we get so busy being angry that we refuse to consider the other’s point of view. Mull over things from different perspectives and imagine yourself in the shoes of the person you are in conflict with. You may have been arguing about the same idea but with different words without even being aware of it!

3. Analyze

A single victory is not enough. One has to ensure that he/she never faces this problem in the future. In order to achieve that, you will have to recognize this recurring issue and analyze your weaknesses. Understand the situations which are likely to trigger your temper and practice your response in advance. Additionally, exercise complete control over your mind through meditation or yoga. Changing the way you think can go a long way in changing your reactions in difficult circumstances.

Harnessing the Power Within

It is a difficult process to recognize your anger issues and treat them. Life can be unfair at times and there may be cases where one simply feels so consumed by anger that rational thinking becomes a far-fetched dream. For those troublesome moments, remember that no matter the circumstances, you can control your emotions. Nobody wants to be labeled as an ill-mannered individual, and no situation warrants treating another life with anything less than respect. Thus, use that brilliant mind to channel your passions and make the best out of any circumstance. Through control, sharing, and analysis, you can master the art of managing anger and lead a more fulfilling life.